Apparently Facebook and their employees are in the business of protecting incomprehensibly ignorant, entitled and pushy men.
Yesterday, a friend I’ve known for years received a message asking if she’d be interested in selling pictures of her body. Totally fucking presumptuous and gross, right? Let me interject for a moment by saying that being accosted by random pervs is not flattering. Just a little tip for all the guys out there: most of us prefer well-worded compliments from people we know, trust and respect.
My friend, who is pretty familiar with this type of behavior from years of social media-having — not to mention multiplayer gaming on Xbox Live — decided to thwart his efforts with humor, telling him she was sans genitalia.
We had a good laugh at first, and she ended up sharing the conversation in its entirety on her timeline. Unsurprisingly, this angered the young man in question, causing him to report the post, which had more than 100 likes and 10 shares before it was removed for violating Facebook’s so-called “Community Standards.”
Another reason this should not be taken lightly — by Facebook or anyone else — is that this wasn’t even the first time this individual had messaged her with the same sordid request for photos. Note the timestamp in the very first screenshot featured.
Yeah, this tom fuckery began in 2013.
My friend is not a nude model, cam girl or porn star of any kind. Not suggesting that there’s anything wrong those professions, but I just want to make a point that there was no reason for him to believe she’d be interested in his spiel.
As you can see, her rejection bruised his ego pretty badly, and he resorted to blatant bullying (“enjoy the next 48 hrs of my harassment”) and name-calling in the form of transphobia (“you do look like a tranny”).
Now that we know without a doubt what he did wrong, let’s go over what Facebook did. On the Community Standards portion of their website and labeled “helping to keep you safe,” Facebook clearly states that they “don’t tolerate bullying or harassment.”
We allow you to speak freely on matters and people of public interest, but remove content that appears to purposefully target private individuals with the intention of degrading or shaming them. This content includes, but is not limited to:
- Pages that identify and shame private individuals
- Images altered to degrade private individuals
- Photos or videos of physical bullying posted to shame the victim
- Sharing personal information to blackmail or harass people
- Repeatedly targeting other people with unwanted friend requests or messages.
So even though he admitted to harassing her, continually asked for photos over a span of three years and insulted her appearance solely because she called him on his bullshit, SHE’S the one that ended up getting banned from Facebook for 24 hours?
I’m assuming the argument here is that she targeted him by sharing his despicable comments with her followers. Was her intention to shame him? Absolutely. Not only because he deserves it, but because other women deserve to know that this kind of behavior does not have to be tolerated.
Can Facebook justify the removal of every post where an individual points out what’s wrong with society after their bullshit meter has reached max capacity? This guy absolutely needed to be exposed for what he is, and he shouldn’t be allowed to exist or procreate let alone have access to social media. Decisions like this prove that Facebook is uninterested in the safety of others and would rather enable harassment than let its millions of users stand up for what’s truly right.
Whoever okayed the removal of these screenshots either wasn’t paying attention, or, in the words of John Mulaney, has the moral backbone of a chocolate éclair.
My purpose is to bring attention to Facebook’s frequent improper handling of reported posts and also to put a man who had no issues writing and sending a message explaining that he views women merely as “pieces of meat” on blast.
Don’t be afraid to share this story and others like it. The more people it reaches, the more likely Facebook is to stop making this type of mistake.